Inability of husband

#1
Hello friends, :)
I hope, it is the right forum to get solution for my problem! I recently married and having some doubts regarding my personal life.3months over. My parents arranged our marriage as my husband have good wealth and career! i am 23 years old. my husband is 30.
I am bit confused about our personal life. Frankly speaking, i discontented
and frustrated with his inability! i am not sure weather he is normal? i consulted with lady doctor about my problem(my one of the friend)! He adviced some techniques! These trials seems no worth! I feel shame to tell that some nights i worry lot about it! I week before indirectly i mentioned my problem with my husband! after this, my problem become still worser! he avoid me much even in speaking! i dont know what should i do? kindly give any solution for my problem!
 
#2
Shahima can you please clarify more about what kind of inability you are talking about, as in what do you think you has inability in!

Then it would be easier to suggest something.
 
#3
I assume you are talking about sexual intimacy? Is your husband not interested? I understand it is not something easy to share... But we've got a very nice group of people here who would only want to help.
 
#4
Hello alka and lissy,
actually, my husband's sexual organ is not functioning ! it is all the time small , cold and flaccid! But, he react as if everything normal and do something for formality without interest and sleeping soon every night! I feel irritable of him. but, i could not express it to him! I dont know what should i do? I informed this to my one of the friend! as we recently married, she dont know what to advice! I lost my mother at my childhood itself! I am not sure whether i have to inform it to my relatives or not! I expect your opinion very much
 

farce

Active Member
#5
This is nothing to be ashamed or embarassed about. This is a
most probably a medical issue. I think you should suggest your
husband visit a good urologist. There are medications available
that might help like Viagra or Cialis. Men are pretty sensitive
in this department and you should handle this with tact
and charm and sensitivity. Be supportive without complaining.
He is too young to have these symptoms at age 30. Maybe it
is a symptom of something more serious like diabetes or
blood pressure. Does he take any medications. Some blood pressure
medications or other psychiatric medications can cause erectile
disfunctions.

Hope things work out for you and your husband.

Other than the sex part, how is your relationship? is it loving and close?

-F
 

Lissy

New Member
#6
I agree with what Farce says, it is probably a medical problem, and your husband needs to see a doctor. Men can be sensitive about this, some refuse to go to the doctor and keep pretending that everything is fine. I would suggest to try gently persuade your husband, and if he does not listen to you, then you might want to consult with other relatives.
 

bubble

New Member
#7
It can be much more common than you could ever anticipate.

Are the other areas of your relationship good? Do you have a connection in other ways?

It is highly likely that this is something medical, but you need to try and get him to talk about it. In all honesty if you make his problem widely known to your family and friends he could well be even more embarassed.

All I can suggest is that you try and get him to see a doctor. Offer to go with him and be supportive.
 
#8
He should go and see his doctor. It may seem insignificant, but this could be an indication of a much more serious medical problem.
 
#10
Is your husband on any kind of medication? Does he happen to have high blood pressure? I've heard that and another illness (I forgot which one) can be a key cause in your husband's condition.
 
#11
If it is in fact the sexual performance you're referring to, there could be many reasons why he's experiencing difficulties. I don't think any of us is qualified to give the right advice here except to say that he should probably see a doctor and if he's already taking any sort of medication, that can also cause side effects as well.
 
#12
You have come to the right place. Everyone here is so nice and extremely helpful:)

I'm sorry to hear about what's going on:( If I'm understanding this correctly, you two have been married for 3 months now? I think you and your husband should go to the doctor together and learn about what's going on with one another. I think in showing him how much you support him through this tough time in his life, it will bring the two of you closer.

I wish you the best!
 
#15
Hello alka and lissy,
actually, my husband's sexual organ is not functioning ! it is all the time small , cold and flaccid! But, he react as if everything normal and do something for formality without interest and sleeping soon every night! I feel irritable of him. but, i could not express it to him! I dont know what should i do? I informed this to my one of the friend! as we recently married, she dont know what to advice! I lost my mother at my childhood itself! I am not sure whethe
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